How often should couples have sex in a week?
Our correspondents asked some married couples how often should couples have sex in a week
It’s should be as their bodies demand – Sunday Elasonru
I think couples should have sex as their bodies demad. They can have sex every day. There should be no limit to the sex lives of couples. They belong to one another and must enjoy themselves for as long as the marriage lasts. They have been bound together and are one, so sexually, they should also be one. If the body desires it every day, they should do it every day.
Work, closeness’ll determine – Esther Bello
It depends on the nature of our work and how close we are. For me, my husband is not always at home and when he is around, I make it a point of duty to satisfy him in bed. It is not proper to engage in sex every day because it makes me tired and I will not have the energy to engage in other things. But we can do something else apart from sex like caressing ourselves. And sometimes if I don’t want my husband to feel bored I will turn on the music and we dance together.
We watch movies or sometimes play games. My husband and I usually play PS2 together and it is fun. I am of the opinion that twice a week is good. The key thing is how well we can negotiate the time. This is because sometimes he might be the one demanding it and sometimes I might be the one. But I can’t be ready for sex every day.
They should do it twice weekly – Idris Salami
Under normal circumstances, couples should have sex at least twice in a week. Many things would come in; work, children, personal duties and obligations but one must always make time to satisfy that urge and have fun with one’s spouse. I believe sex should come in at least twice in a week to relax the muscles, satisfy the body and enjoy the moment with one’s spouse. There wouldn’t always be time, so they should enjoy it when there is time to do so.
Couple’s energy should be a factor – Hosanna Emom
As long as we have the strength, sex is something that requires energy. In a week it should be twice or thrice. It should not be every day because I consider it crazy. There should be some gap in between especially if they are both working. Moreover, in the beginning of our marriage we always had constant sex. But it reduces as children start coming and responsibilities increase. What is more important is that we are cool with our sex life. I am sure because we often discuss about it.
It shouldn’t have a timetable – Ugochukwu Okpara
Most men’s brains always signal sex especially when the person seen is a beautiful woman. I believe it should be always. There shouldn’t be a timetable for it. Sex bonds couple’s love and improves the level of intimacy in the marriage. There should be no time limit for sex and it should not be restricted to a specific day. Sex should be on a regular basis. Even if it can’t happen every day, it should be a regular thing in every marriage.
Twice or thrice weekly – Mary Odetoyan
My husband doesn’t even want sex every day. But I believe that two or three times a week is okay to have sex. We have our schedules and sometimes we can come back from work feeling tired and we sleep off. It’s better if it is done twice or thrice a day; we are already used to it.
Fixing time for sex makes it boring – Collins Ifinnwa
Every couple should have sex as often as possible. Sex should not be planned. Planning sex takes the element of interest out of it because when it is planned, it tends to get boring eventually. Sex can happen anytime and anywhere in the house. In fact, morning sex is interesting. It is not advisable for couples to have sex based on a timetable. It is something that has to be done as often as possible and if possible, every day. It improves the marriage and builds trust and self-confidence in the couple. Sex is a regular thing and shouldn’t be timed.
I’ll satisfy my husband anytime – Funmilayo Oluwagbohunmi
I believe in satisfying my husband. Anytime he wants it, I will give it to him. But I think three times a week is cool. My husband doesn’t even like it every day. Having too much sex is not a guarantee that one will have a good marriage or it will improve a struggling one. But we just do it to keep our marriage healthy.
It depends on age – Toheeb Akinrinola
I think it depends on age. When you are still young you can do it every day or three times a week. But when you get old, you can do it once in a week or a month. At times, you might not be able to do it at all because the strength for sex would not be there anymore; it is all based on the age factor. As for young couples, it is advisable they make sex a daily basis. It helps to sleep better and it makes one happy with one’s spouse as well as building trust and intimacy. However, if the strength is failing based on age, having sex once in a week is not bad at all. It is better than not having it at all. It brings one’s spouse closer to one.
Twice monthly is better – Esther Amos
The goal of a marriage is not for sex. Communication is the key. My opinion is that sex should be done twice a month. I believe that too much sex will make me age quickly. I believe that if I am giving my husband sex every day I will be spoiling him and I can’t do that. Whenever my husband is on a long trip, I can hold myself till he gets back because I am used to the twice a month routine. But if I am an everyday sex person, it will cause problem whenever he travels. None of us we have extra marital affairs because we have already disciplined ourselves.